What makes dating fun? To me it is the adventure, the excitement created by the possibility of a long-term relationship and meeting new people through your date.
This regular column is intended to explore the fun and not-so-fun sides of dating. Before we should begin that process, you need to be spun up on who I am.
I am a product of Reaganomics. Growing up, my mother drilled me into a polite and well-behaved son. To this day, if someone mentions to my mother that she had best-behaved children she will glow with pride.
My father taught me to love Muddy Waters, Sonny Boy Williamson, Coltrane, Miles and Miller High Life. I am forever indebted to him for showing me not only how to love music but how to grow musically as well. I landed my first love in high school. We still keep in touch.
Fast forward to today. By day you will find me being Mr. Corporate. Pretty much a standard 8 to 5 gig in a role that requires a specific discipline and skill set.
On nights and weekends my time is split. Half the time I am playing dad to the world’s most wonderful child. I am a divorced single father who has 50/50 custody of my only child. I have learned since my divorce that having half custody of my child puts me into rare company when it comes to being a father. Most fathers in my situation do not operate like that and do the weekend thing only. I do not understand that. If you put into prospective the situation I am in, at best I am going to miss out on half of my child’s life growing up. How do you tolerate missing more? I hope what you just learned about me will speak to my character.
The other half of the time I am out playing. Dating is definitely part of the mix. I am a true guy when it comes to my playing. Golf, live music, sports, sitting outside at a Germantown restaurant on a beautiful day and anything that has an internal combustion engine gets me fired up. What I enjoy most about this time is that I force myself into adventures and new experiences. I will try anything once as long as the consequences of the act will not land me in trouble with our legal system or interfere with the time I spend with my child.
To sum this all up, we are looking at something very exciting and unique here. A dating column based on the real life experience of a divorced single father. I have researched to see if something like this exists now and have not had any luck finding it. I am buckled in ready to go. Are you?