Ken Blacketer is used to building homes from the ground up. So when a blind date turned into a lifetime commitment, he saw an opportunity to build something of his own, and Becky fit perfectly into his blueprint.
The couple, who have been married for more than a decade, keep things in perspective when it comes to family, religion and a little bit of fun. From the outside, you can tell Ken is the patriarch of the family – calm with a witty demeanor, but realistic in expectations. Methodical – like his developments.
Becky, Ken’s beautiful, fun-loving, energetic wife keeps him on his toes but lays the foundation down in their everyday life.
The couple has a realistic outlook on life and apply that to raising a family all while living in the house that Ken built.
How did you meet?
“It was one of those friend-of-a-friend type situations,” started Ken.
“No!” Becky interjected, “my roommate was friends with one of his friends and they set us up,” Becky said and after a brief pause added, “So ya I guess Ken is right” and as Ken kindly shook his head and grabbed Becky’s knee they both laughed.
After a blind date at TK’s Restaurant, Becky knew she had found a winner.
“I remember I fell in love with his meek character instantly,” Becky said. “Ken comes off pretty reserved at first but he will surprise you when you least expect it and can be relaxed – he’s fun! I noticed his good nature right off the bat.”
How did he propose?
“This is funny,” Becky started, “we had been dating for about a year and both just knew – at least I thought he did. Until Christmas came around and he got me a piece of luggage!” Still shocked about the token of affection. “Of course I thought the worse.
“My girlfriends were teasing me saying ‘he’s kicking you to the curb.’ I was really upset,” Becky said.
“What she didn’t know was that it was all part of my plan,” said Ken with a laugh.
“I love to travel, and knew she did too, so by buying her luggage I hoped it would symbolize us spending many years and a good part of our future traveling together,’ Ken said.
“That’s just Ken,” Becky added.
The following Valentine’s Day Ken took Becky on the first of many travels and proposed to her on a balloon ride.
“We were married in October on the very same day my parents had been, so that was very special to me,” Becky said.
How do you make it work on a day-to-day basis?
“Ken and I feel that to make a marriage work is to realize that God is in control,” Becky said.
“I know it might sound cliché or even repetitive but looking back now I know for a fact that during harder times it was definitely our faith that brought us back to order.”
“I didn’t know anything about that before marriage,” Becky admitted, while another subtle head shake accompanied a grin across Ken’s face.
Do you have a system for dividing up household chores?
The couple lead very busy lives with three children all under the age of 18. Between carpooling and extracurricular activities, the Blacketer’s can’t wait for their 16-year-old to start driving in May.
“Our household chores are definitely a family task. We feel that if everyone helps then there is more family time,” Becky said.
“And our kids see the value in that so they are fairly cooperative.” Ken added.
Where do you like to go when you’re out ‘n’ about?
“We love to go a variety of places in town as long as we are with one another and or family and friends we’re happy,’ Becky said.
Is there anything you always do as a couple?
“We enjoy traveling with one another and did quite a bit of it when we were younger and first married. Now we have kids and can share our passion with them as well,” Ken said.
Family vacations have included trips to Mexico, Aruba and Phoenix.
“Well we also love to ski and have traveled to Beaver Creek quite a few times,” Ken added.
“Oh yeah! That’s right, I forgot about that,” Becky said.
This time Ken didn’t hold back his laughter.
“We are also very fortunate to still travel alone as a couple,” Ken said.
“Ken’s company uses lumber from Boland Maloney so in the past they have organize a trip for all their customers. Our favorite so far has been to Maui,” Becky added.
“I would have to say though, at this point in our lives going to our children’s sports events is important to us. We love going together and watching them excel and be challenged, it has really brought us closer together,” Becky said.
What advice would you offer to couples – new or old – who desire to walk together through life in tandem?
“Even though you feel you are controlling the marriage, keep open communication, an open mind and honesty between the both of you at all times,” Becky said.
“Don’t be reluctant to admit when you’re wrong or to forgive if you aren’t wrong,” Ken added.
“The age-old saying of ‘if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything at all’ is a good one to remember,” Becky added.
October 9, 1993
Three kids: Kaitlin (16 and soon driving) and 11-year-old twins Colton and Chloe.
Ken and Becky reside with their three kids and two dogs (Buddy, a bichon and Blossom, a great dane/Labrador mix they rescued) in a Blacketer development in Middletown.
Ken is development and property manager for Blacketer Co.
Cats or Cards
A long line of Cardinal appreciation. Both Ken and Becky graduated from U of L. Becky’s brother currently works in orthopedics at the Ellis Group which works with U of L sports and her mom retired from the dental school after 28 years.
Category: In Tandem
About the Author (Author Profile)
Voice-Tribune Staff Writer Lauren DePaso enjoys being a tourist in her own city, exploring the nightlife and cheering on the Cards. A Louisville native, she currently resides in St. Matthews.