Shawn: We met the Fourth of July in 2002. I followed Butch around Kroger in Crescent Hill with my shopping cart.
Butch: He just starts following me around.
Shawn: We got through the checkout and we both left the Kroger – I never said anything to him – but I followed him to the gas station, and I pulled up next to him and I said, “I’m just going to keep following you until you pay attention to me.” So we exchanged numbers and never called each other. And then I saw him out six months later in January 2003, and I said, “Do you remember me? I stalked you once in the grocery store.”
Butch: And I said, “Yes you did, but you never called.”
Shawn: I said, “You never called either,” and he said, “Then I guess we’re even,” and I said, “Yeah, I guess we are” – and that was it.
Butch: We had our commitment ceremony at Gingerwoods on Jan. 17, 2009. I told Shawn when I proposed the year before at Jeff Ruby’s that I did not have a ring to give him because I knew better than to buy a ring without him having seen it first.
Shawn: And I said, “And this is why I will say yes.” … Not only are we grown adult gay men, and our parents accept that, but they really like each other. We had our entire families at our commitment ceremony and everyone wanted to be there.
Butch: I think there’s been a big clarity on what’s really important, and what’s really important to us has changed in the last several years. I also think part of why we work is the blend. We have a lot of things in common that we’re both interested in that keep us constantly talking about different things, but we’re also different enough that there’s that variety in the relationship as well. We genuinely like to spend time together – and a lot of time together.
Shawn: I don’t know if I can tell you exactly what makes it work, but I think we’re just a good fit. We have in the past couple of years realized that life’s awfully short and some crazy things can happen, so you should relish the differences in each other rather than fight about them.
Category: In Tandem
About the Author (Author Profile)
Angie Fenton is Managing Editor of The Voice-Tribune, a Blue Equity company. She is also an entertainment correspondent for WHAS11′s new morning show, “Great Day Live!”, which debuted August 22 on Louisville’s ABC affiliate. Additionally, Angie is an entertainment correspondent for the Saturday Morning Show with Ron ‘n’ Mel Fisher on 84WHAS (840 AM) and has served in the same capacity for Churchill Downs, the Kentucky Derby and Kentucky Oaks; Breeders’ Cup; and Circuit of the Americas during the Formula 1 U.S. Grand Prix in November 2012. Angie also serves as an emcee, host, voiceover professional and on-camera commercial talent.
Angie has a bachelor’s and master’s in English from Central Michigan University and began her career as an adjunct professor at her alma mater. She is the youngest of five — four of whom were adopted, including Angie, and none of whom are biologically related. She is also a Michigan native who moved to Kentucky in June 2002. Angie is owned by two dogs — Herbie and Yoda — and feels lucky to have loved and been loved by many more, including Pooch, Jessie, Onyx, Jack and Big Bud, who took his last breath on Christmas Day 2012.